Finding Yourself Again After Emotional Abuse

Sometimes the deepest wounds aren’t visible. Emotional abuse can leave you doubting yourself, questioning your worth, and feeling like the person you once were has slipped away. If you’ve ever felt like you no longer recognise yourself, please know that you're not alone - I've been there too and there is light at the end of the tunnel!!

🌸 The Hidden Impact of Emotional Abuse

Unlike physical wounds, the scars of emotional abuse show up in subtle ways:

• Silencing your needs to avoid conflict.

• Second-guessing every decision for fear of being judged or criticsed for being wrong.

• Feeling numb, anxious, or disconnected from your body because your nervous system has learnt that being yourself isn't safe.

You become so disconnected from yourself that you lose your sense of identity These patterns often linger long after the abusive relationship ends, making it difficult to trust yourself — or anyone else.

🌙 Why You Feel Disconnected From Yourself

Emotional abuse is so damaging because it breaks down your sense of self - your identity. Over time, your inner voice becomes drowned out by someone else’s criticism, control, or manipulation. It's a gradual and subtle process so that you may not even realise at the time it's happening. The constant walking on eggshells teaches you that your needs don't matter, you don't have a right to voice your feelings and if you do it leads to punishment - often through silence, anger or even violence.

But here’s the truth: your essence, your light, your you-ness has never left. It may feel hidden, but it’s still there, waiting to be remembered.

🌷 Gentle Ways to Begin Reconnecting With Yourself

Healing means creating small, sacred practices that remind you of who you are, no matter how long that takes. It means rebuilding your identity, brick by brick, stone by stone:

1. Start With the Body
   Gentle self-care to help reconnect you with your body. Small self care practices like doing things - no matter how small - even just a gentle self massage with your favourite oil can be a great place

2. Reconnect With Your Feminine Energy
   Practices like yoga nidra, breathwork, or simply allowing yourself to rest without guilt can help you return to softness, intuition, and self-trust.

3. Surround Yourself With Safe Connection
   Healing often happens in community. Being with women who understand your journey — who see you and hold you — can help remind you of your worth.

4. Find time for YOU.
   Taking time out for yourself is hugely healing. Whether that's taking up a new hobby to lose yourself for just a short while and remove yourself from the situation and spiralling thoughts really can help the path to recovery

🌺 Reclaiming Your Sacred Self

Healing after emotional abuse isn’t about “becoming someone new.” It’s about remembering who you’ve always been — the woman beneath the pain, the conditioning, and the silencing. She is still there, whole and radiant, waiting for you to turn toward her.

And you don’t have to do it alone. Whether through sacred circles, gentle Ayurvedic practices, or 1:1 support, there are paths to help you feel like yourself again.

I've walked this path too so I know how it feels! Until I came out of the relationship, I didn't know what had happened. Then came the self blame - how could I have let this happen! Why didn't I see it...? But when I noticed this was a pattern that had played out my entire life this all shifted, and I cleared the conditioning and limiting beliefs keeping me trapped in these cycles

But the truth is it's not your fault and you are not to blame.

If you are ready to start your healing journey with someone who truly understands, has walked this path and will meet you with softness, care and heart, I invite you to reach out to me to discuss how I can help:

https://riseasagoddesscoaching.com/contact