Inner Child Healing

Not many people know this about me, but my childhood was far from a happy one.

Growing up, I learned that speaking up could lead to punishment, so I learnt to shut down. I learnt that being a 'good girl' kept me out of trouble.

At the time, I didn’t know that was trauma.
I just thought it was “normal.”

But that early conditioning didn’t stay in childhood.
It followed me into adulthood—in the relationships I chose, the way I let people treat me, and the toxic environments I tolerated.

I found myself in patterns of people-pleasing, over-functioning, and shrinking myself to keep the peace. I attracted bullying partners, narcissistic managers, and dynamics that felt eerily familiar—because I had learned that this was normal.

It took me years to understand: I wasn’t broken.
I wasn’t weak.
I was stuck in a survival pattern my nervous system had learned long ago.

And maybe, if you're reading this... you know that feeling too.

I had years of counselling which taught me to separate the young version of me who had gone through so much from the current version of me, and lock her away in a box. A metaphorical one I never planned to open again.

Because I believed if I left her in there, I could move forward.
Because if I let her out, I was afraid of what she’d say.

And then one day, she came back.

The Day the Box Opened

It didn’t happen all at once. Healing rarely does.

But after leaving a toxic relationship—one that mirrored so many before it—I found myself sitting alone on my living room floor, completely undone. This was the beginning of my spiritual awakening. My healing journey taught me that my inner child - those younger versions of me I'd been taught to lock away - actually needed love. You can't move forward really unless you heal the past, give those past versions of you what they needed, so they don't keep showing up when least expected.

Then - something unexpected happened.

My inner child began showing me images and scenes from my past that I hadn't realised I hadn't healed....

Memories I had forgotten.
Feelings I couldn’t explain.
Moments of my childhood that had been buried deep in my subconscious... suddenly surfaced.

Not to shame me.
But because—for the first time—I was finally safe enough to hear her.

Why Reconnection Is the Real Work

Today, that younger version of me is no longer locked away.

She walks beside me.
She reminds me that healing isn’t a straight line—it’s a spiral.
And she helps me show up with compassion for myself and for the women I now guide.

Sometimes I still give her a hug when I sense she's feeling unsafe, and ask her what she needs....

Because I’ve learned this:

🌀 You can’t bypass your past.
🌀 You can’t “mindset” your way out of survival patterns.
🌀 And you definitely can’t heal without safety.

To the Woman Who Feels Like She Should Be “Over It” By Now…

You’re not behind.
You’re not broken.
You’re remembering.

And maybe—just maybe—it’s time to reconnect with the part of you that’s still waiting to be seen, heard, and loved.

That’s where the real work begins.
And it’s where the real freedom lives.

Ready to Go Deeper?

If you’re craving a safe space to reconnect with your story, regulate your nervous system, and truly heal forward, I’m here.
This is the work I now do—walking women home to themselves.

📩 You can reach out to me here:

https://riseasagoddesscoaching.com/contact

Let’s talk about what healing on your terms could look like.