What Is Trauma and How to Gently Release It
What Is Trauma and How to Gently Release It
A Trauma-Informed Coaching Perspective
When we think about trauma, we think of it is a huge event that has had a huge negative impact on our lives.
While it absolutely can be and very often is, sometimes it may not be. It can be something relatively minor, such as a parent not taking notice of a picture you made for them as a child so you learned that nothing you do is good enough, or a parent breaking a promise that they deemed insignificant, so as a child you learnt that you no one can be trusted....
I had a coach who would refer it to Traumatic experiences as a Big T and Little T.
But whatever the experience or how seemingly insignificant from an adult perspective, it can still have a devastating impact on a child and into the adult years. Neither is more “valid” than the other.
Both can profoundly shape how we relate to ourselves and others.
What matters isn’t how big the event looks — it’s how deeply it was felt.
The challenge is knowing where the trauma began and being able to release it, so we can feel finally feel safe whole and free again.
How Trauma Shows Up Later in Life
Unresolved trauma often reveals itself quietly in adulthood. You might notice:
Feeling anxious or on edge without knowing why
Difficulty trusting or fully relaxing around others
A harsh inner critic or constant self-doubt
Over-functioning, people-pleasing, or emotional numbness
Feeling stuck in repeating patterns despite “doing the work”
In trauma-informed work, both are treated with equal compassion and care.
Your nervous system doesn’t measure trauma by scale — it measures safety, and these are the coping mechanisms that your nervous system developed to keep you safe.
Why Trauma Can Be Hard to Identify
Many women struggle to identify trauma because:
There is no clear memory
The experience was normalised
“Others had it worse”
Trauma-informed coaching does not require you to relive or label your experiences.
Instead, it focuses on:
Nervous system regulation
Emotional safety
Body awareness
Gentle self-connection
How To Release Trauma
Trauma healing begins with self awareness and recognition of what happened, if it can't be accepted.
It's now recognised that what we don't heal can stay in our nervous system, stored in our energy body and can manifest later as illness unless it's released
Some gentle ways to do this may be:
Trauma-informed journaling
Gentle movement or breathwork
Energy-clearing practices
Learning to listen to your body’s signals
Recognising patterns without judgement
Talking therapy / coaching
Be Gentle With Yourself
There is no timeline for healing.
There is no “right” or wrong way to heal
When you meet your experience with compassion rather than pressure, something begins to soften. And from that softness, real change becomes possible.
Healing isn't about fixing yourself. It's about remembering who you were before the world made you lose your own magic
If this resonates, trauma-informed coaching may support you in:
Understanding your nervous system
Releasing emotional weight safely
Reconnecting with your inner wisdom
Moving forward without overwhelm
Healing begins with safety.
And safety begins with being met gently.
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