When "I Need Help with My Confidence" Actually Means Something Else Entirely
"I need help with my confidence."
Those were the words my client spoke when she reached out to me recently. She was getting job offers but couldn't bring herself to accept them. After taking time away from her career as a new mum, she didn't feel "confident enough" to return.
As her coach, I listened. I held space. And then she said something that changed everything.
"My priorities have shifted," she continued. "The corporate world doesn't matter as much anymore. I want something more aligned with who I am now."
In that moment, I realised we weren't dealing with a confidence issue at all.
You see, this client and I have worked together for a few years. I've witnessed her incredible transformation from someone who'd been playing small, diminished by other managers to someone who knew her true worth. I'd watched her grow from questioning her value to choosing herself without guilt
Reframing the Story
So I offered her a different perspective: "What if this isn't lacking confidence? What if this is the wisdom and strength you've gained from all of the self work you've done? A testament to how much you've grown?"
She thought she needed to work on her confidence. But she had evolved.
That pull toward something more authentic? That wasn't weakness or fear - it was her hard-earned confidence saying "I deserve better than settling."
The Real Issue
Here's what I've learned after years of coaching: Sometimes what we label as a "lack of confidence" is actually our inner wisdom trying to guide us toward something more aligned.
We've been conditioned to see hesitation as weakness, when it might actually be our intuition protecting us from what no longer serves us.
We mistake the pull toward authenticity for fear, when it's actually courage in disguise.
Your Transformation Awaits
If you're reading this spoke to your heart, you might just be ready for your next evolution.
Your journey from playing small to owning your worth is waiting. And with the right support, that transformation is not just possible—it's inevitable.
Ready to reframe your story? I'd love to support you on this journey. https://riseasagoddesscoaching.com/work-with-me
