How Childhood Wounds Show Up in Your Adult Relationships
How Childhood Wounds Show Up in Your Adult Relationships
On the outside, you're successful.... You seem to have it all...
You're the one people turn to when they need advice..
But inside, it can feel like a quiet struggle no one sees...
🌱 What Are Childhood Wounds?
Childhood wounds aren’t always the result of big, obvious traumas.
They can come from emotional neglect, inconsistent love, high expectations, being silenced, scolded for being emotional....
Over time, these experiences shape how you see yourself, how safe you feel with others, and what you believe you're allowed to receive in love.
🪞How They Show Up in Your Relationships
Here are a few patterns you might notice:
1. You Over-Give to Earn Love
You were praised for being “the good girl” — quiet, helpful, polite...
Now, you might confuse love with sacrifice, and struggle to receive without guilt.
2. You Attract Emotionally Unavailable Partners
If love felt unpredictable growing up, you may chase that same emotional rollercoaster.
It’s familiar — even if it's painful at times.
3. You Fear Conflict Like It’s Dangerous
If speaking up led to punishment or being shut down, your nervous system still links speaking your truth with threat.
So you avoid hard conversations… and lose pieces of yourself in the process.
4. You Lose Yourself in Relationships
If you had to shape-shift to be loved as a child, you may still be performing — becoming who someone needs instead of who you truly are.
Why Awareness Isn’t Always Enough
Therapy and mindset work may have taught you helped you trace back where these patterns originally formed.
But the truth is:
Childhood wounds don’t live in your logic.
They live in your nervous system.
Healing requires more than mindset. It calls for somatic work — the kind that feels safe, calms your survival responses, and shows you what safety actually feels like.
You Don’t Have to Keep Reliving the Past
Your relationships don’t have to repeat old pain.
You don’t have to keep proving your worth.
Healing is possible.
And it starts by reclaiming the parts of you that learned to stay small, stay silent, or stay safe — even when they were just trying to survive.
You’re allowed to:
Take up space without apology in all areas of your life.
Set boundaries without guilt.
Be cherished without proving your worth
Choose partners who feel safe, present, and nurturing.
✨ Ready to Rewrite Your Story?
If this resonates, know that you don’t have to navigate it alone.
Inside my programmes, I guide women like you back to the truth of who they are — without these patterns, and without reliving the pain of their past.
Together, we gently unravel what’s been held in your nervous system — so you can experience true transformation, reclaim your feminine essence, and open to the life and love that have always been yours to receive
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